For most of us, between the time we graduate from high school up until the time we hit 25, our lives seem to pass in a blur of exams, higher education, parties, and trying to find a job that we don’t absolutely hate. It’s only when we hit 25 does the quarter-life crisis set in, and we start thinking about “What am I going to do with the rest of my life?”
If you feel clueless about the direction your life is taking, then perhaps it’s time to slow down and start thinking about how you can improve your life. Read on to know what you can change to finally achieve the life you’ve always dreamed of!
1. Learn to live alone.
At some point of time in your life, try living alone. Between living with family, friends, and getting married, you need to take that time to live by yourself. Not only will you become more self-reliant, but you’ll also get to know more about yourself than you ever did before!
2. Be financially savvy.
Blowing your salary on that fabulous sale, or on a single night of partying might have been fine earlier, but what happens when you’re in a sticky situation and you don’t have enough funds? Bottom line: it’s time to start saving. And if you need some guidance to help you navigate the murky world of financial investments, consult a CA.
3. Cast your vote.
if you haven’t already done it by now. You pay taxes, you’re a citizen of this country, and you’re the one getting affected each time there’s a strike, or a new bill that’s passed- so go out there and vote. It might not be much, but it counts.
4. Keep your car clean.
It’s a little known truth; once you start taking care of your car, your parents will finally baptise you as an adult. Although, it’s not just your car; all your worldly possessions- your clothes, books, technology, and your house, need to be neat and clean too!
5. Go globe trotting.
Travel with friends, travel with family, travel alone if you don’t have any company- but travel. Going out, meeting new people, trying unusual cuisines, and just being exposed to unfamiliar places and situations can give you a whole new world view.
6. Sort out your relationships.
Perhaps you never got over the fact that your parents never supported your career choice. Or maybe you and your partner can’t pass a single day without fighting. Whatever the problem is, you might want to take a step towards resolving those issues because, let’s face it- these are the most important people in your life and you don’t want to spend each day being a miserable mess, do you?
7. Give yourself a makeover.
When you’re depressed by those strands of grey, or feel like you’ve been in a rut too long, try colouring your hair a completely different shade, or just pamper yourself with that pedicure you’ve been meaning to get for months. And, if you don’t want to brave the long queues at the parlour, why not book a salon at home?
8. Drink. But be responsible.
No one’s asking you to be a teetotaller but it’s not a crime to stick to two drinks. Especially if you also have to drive. Take a cab, or hire a driver if you need to- just don’t drive drunk.
9. Take your parents out to dinner.
Once a week, once a month, or whenever you visit them. Spend some quality family time and show them you appreciate them.
10. Redesign your home.
If the space you’re living in doesn’t make you happy to head back home, then you’re in big trouble. Throw out those posters from when you were 18 and infatuated by that one-hit wonder. Invest in new curtains, treat your house to a fresh coat of paint- let your space reflect the person you’ve become. Clueless about where to start? Consult an interior designer!
11. Take up a hobby.
How long has that guitar been gathering dust in your cupboard for? If you fall into the routine of getting up, going to work, and falling asleep as soon as you’re home, trust us, one day you’re going to wake up to find there’s nothing left in your life that truly makes you happy. So spend your free time wisely.
12. Learn to cook.
Irrespective of your age, gender, or social class, this is one of the most important life skills that you need to learn. It’s not about cooking for someone else but, come on, you do need to know how to feed yourself.
13. Take your deepest, darkest fear, and face it head on.
Always been terrified of the water? Or do you always surround yourself with a crowd so you’ll never be alone? Well, there’s no time like a quarter life crisis to get over your phobias. Trust us, there’s nothing you can’t do!
14. Do something selfless.
No, we’re not asking you to join an NGO. But whether you want to donate blood, teach your maid’s children, or volunteering with your closest pet shelter, there’s nothing like making a small, sustained effort to make a difference to someone’s life.
15. Plan an exercise routine. And stick to it.
Suffering from back aches because you spend 10 hours a day hunched over your computer? There’s nothing like an hour of yoga or some good, old-fashioned stretches to get your body back in shape! Get a fitness trainer today.
16. Give yourself permission to fail.
At some point in life, things may not work out the way you want and when that happens, it’s important to learn to be okay with it. It’s all about keeping your chin up, and moving ahead with what you’ve learnt.
17. Quit your job if it makes you miserable.
If you’re not happy and going nowhere, quit. Now’s the time to be thinking about the bigger picture. Stop chasing the money and start thinking about your career. Get that degree you’ve always thought about, or start the company you’ve always dreamed of. But do it today.
18. Throw classier parties.
Once you’ve sorted out your financial situation, there’s really no reason to keep throwing house parties with chips and dip. Celebrate occasionally, but when you do, go all out- hire a bartender, get a house party chef, or even… have a live band perform!
19. Go on a long drive, or watch a movie by yourself, sometimes.
There’s nothing like enjoying your own company sometimes. Watch the stars late at night, or go to a restaurant and request a table for one, and let the world pass by while you sit still and take in the moment by yourself.
20. Get over the sibling rivalry.
So maybe you never got along, and you still remember that she got all the attention when she was younger. But that’s no reason to continue the rivalry. Why not agree to let the past go, and treat each other like adults?
21. Watch the sun rise, occasionally.
Every once in a while, get up early enough to take in the sunrise. Not only will it help you clear your head before the chaos of the working day begins, you also get to witness the beauty of nature.
22. Learn to let go. Forgive. Forget. And move on.
Remember that ex who screwed you over and you’re still bitter about? Well, as they say, it’s not making a difference to anyone but you. Act your age. Yes, it wasn’t the right thing for him to do, but really, there are more important things in life that need your attention. So move on.
23. Have an adventure, once a year.
You’ve always wanted to go scuba diving, but for some reason you’ve never really got around to trying it out? Well, if you don’t do it in your mid-twenties, when you’re single, unattached, and relatively free of responsibilities, when will you do it? Try something new each year; scuba diving, bungee jumping, sky diving- the possibilities are endless!
24. Quit that bad habit.
We all have that one habit that we know we should give up, but we never do. Well, maybe this is the time. Kick the butt, start taking the stairs, manage your temper better- if you know it’s bad for you, change it before it’s too late.
25. Stop procrastinating. Start living.
They got it right. Life is short. Focus on the things that are important to you, and things will work themselves out eventually. Let go of all those hangups from the past, and really make every little moment matter. After all, you’re just beginning to live at 25.
Phew. We know that was a long read, but if you feel you have any more to add to the list, then let us know in the comments section below! And if you’re looking for the right professionals to help you with things that you need to get done- whether you need a relationship counsellor when life gets too intense, a yoga instructor for your exercise routine, or just a driver on demand, for when you’re stranded with your car but can’t drive- just remember, we’re always here for you!
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I read it n it's wonderful I am 26 now n an independent working woman but I am in a mess of my relationship
I am in love with a boy who is a Muslim and he is 3 years younger to me we are together since 6 years and truly love each other but our religion n age factor is creating problems I need to get married probably within 1 or max 2 years but he is not ready n his parents are not approving our relationship. I lost my dad last year n my mom is very eager to see my marriage I don't know what to do n how to resolve these problems plz help me out I need a permanent solution to this Problem
Hi Anubha,
I am sure you have your priorities sorted out. And I understand that given your position, there are a lot of issues.However, is marriage and settling down the only thing you want right now? Why now? You are just 26. Of course that's what every girl wants at the end of the day but why at 26? This is perhaps the only time you will get in life to earn and spend for yourself, do the things you want to do. What I understood from this post was that the author wants us to learn to earn, spend and save for ourselves, do the things we want to.
I am 30. My boyfriend is 28. We are both earning and spending. We love travelling and we are planning a long trip around the country together. He is of different caste. His mom passed away and he has family pressures and so do I (its not easy to stay unmarried till 30... Lots of planning).
My point is:
-*Don't marry because you are pressurized by the society. Do it when you want to.
-*When will you see new places? Do new things? Meet new people? Is marrying and having babies the only purpose of life for a girl? I am sure you must have some desires... Don't you want to try them with alone or maybe your friends?
-*this next point is free advice so you may find it annoying (most of the free advices are) sometimes you have to let things flow in and out. Don't just sit there worrying about this stuff. Focus on other things. There are a lot of beautiful things and people around and you can learn so many things.. Let things take their own time. It doesn't matter how old you are, how long your relationship is. What matters is that why stop other things in life just for this one decision? If it's meant to be, he will come to you no matter what. If it's not, at least you enjoyed the journey.
Take care.
Hi! My bf is Muslim too. And from my experience, if you guys are truly in love there is nothing impossible. The problems you've mentioned is just a drop in the ocean. there will be way many problems coming your way, but as long as you've got each other nothing is impossible.
If he still has a problem, he doesn't love you enough. Fact.
Hi Anubha
Thanks for reading the blog. With regards to your problem, we understand that sustaining relationships is not easy, and your situation is particularly difficult. However, rather than us giving you advice, it might be better if you would consult a professional relationship counsellor regarding your difficulties. You can find someone here: . All the best, and hope you sort out your problem soon :)
"Do what your heart says if u truly believe in your love"
All these problems are temporary.
If you marry him, u'l have to face family issues. If u marry according to ur mom's choice, u n u bd are going to suffer.
Suffering is inevitable in ur case anyways.
You have to live rest of your life with your hubby. Neither the society nor your mother!
Life is too short to compromise with the most important issues of our life.
we have already lived almost half of our years..
Go with your love.
Do what your heart says..!!
(I fell in love with a girl who is already married and has a son 3 yrs old.
By the time, she too started falling for me . And we are mad for each other now. it's been 6 months now. We aren't able to take any decisions. We tried separating so many times. But evrytime I stopped talking to her, she fell ill too seriously..
She can't leave her husband just because of her kid and few other reasons.
We never know we are winning each other or loosing each other with the time.
God knows what the future has for us..
My situation always make me feel that God should always make the lovers meet..
I wish the same for you..
That's only why our replied u..n told u.. "Do what your heart says"
:)
That's some list!
I always try to plan something for myself but don't get the inner strength to do so .. I want to live a free life for a while, away from everything, help those in need, make the sad ones smile.. Ride alone to someone peaceful where there is no one..no thing to worry me..
After reading this post I feel like doing these things already.. A vacation alone to someone close to nature..
Gud
Aditi,
I couldn't agree more with your logic. This post is to help us stop procrastinating and start living. 25 is a somewhat a setback if you realize you don't want to live much. This is our time to make a list and start checking it out simultaneously. Spend on memories, I have always propagated this as a mantra!
If something will give you memories and an experience for life, grab that opportunity. Why spend on stuff which you end up throwing out?
Travel, live, explore and wander. That is about it.
Nice blog i liked it :)
Hi I initially had been too immature and careless in my life, I was too lazy to study but wen I lost a couple of years, I became serious abt my academics and with great difficulty I fared well and earned myself a degree......after my degree I did odd jobs, I physically toiled and moiled, injured myself and burnt my fingers, my health took a toll and finally had to give up dat job.....i later joined another company and was working der without a salary for over 4 months seeing my dedication dey put me on contractual work in another concern......even here I am NT getting paid.....i am 27 and am seriously scared dat my career wud be over if I ever quit dis job......i am his working for free and hoping god one day wud open his eyes.......i do accept my mistakes I had been too lethargic and too immature and foolish until d age of eighteen but later I realized my mistake after failing my 12th board exams......I simply don knw what to do......7 months and d first salary s still elusive......
Great piece. A very positive post! Feels good to read on a Monday afternoon.
Just on a lighter note, for bad habit alone you've put a guy's image :P I wonder why!
Hi Arun
We're happy that you liked reading the post :) As for the image, it depicts a man breaking a cigarette in half. So it's actually on a positive note!
Nice post..Really loved reading it !!
Quitting a job, being financially savvy, throwing classier parties, travelling all at the same time. Thoughts seemed at two different extremes to me. Also I would suggest an ex who ditched could be a her as well instead of him. If yu could pay more attention to equality among people that would be great. I am 25 and over all this post helped me. Hope my suggestions improve your blogging. Thanks.!